I wondering if you could answer this question?

I think you should tell him your feelings and let him es it as he is a part of the your problem. Also the ignoring part is that obviously he is still hurt and is guarding himself from more hurt. It is possible that in his mind he believes that if you get back together you will hurt him again. Also I believe that you should es yourself. If you get back with him and have that comfort that you have him, will you go back to your wayward ways? or will you really cherish the guy you have strong feelings for? If you cannot cherish him I advise you to leave him be so you can at least try to be friends, when he is ready.